The Elephant in the Room

I have been going back and forth in my mind for the past week about whether or not to share something personal on my blog. When is something just too personal to share with the whole world? Is it even appropriate? But I have 2 major problems with not sharing. 1) It will be hard for it not to just come out accidentally in one way or another and 2) whether it’s appropriate or not, my blog is my therapeutic space. I can talk about stuff to my friends all night and day but for some reason, it feels so good to type it all out.

Bed Dogs

Anyway, here goes.

One week ago my partner and I decided to separate. We are still figuring out exactly what that means. But as I had actual time to move and such, I forfeited visiting my family for Thanksgiving and have instead spent the last week acquiring a new apartment, moving in, acquiring furniture, putting stuff away, and doing all those daunting things involved with moving to a new place. It’s been a fatiguing whirlwind few days.

So, there it is.

I’m now basically moved in and just got internets, so am finally able to catch up on my emails and other activities. I have to go into the hospital tonight for call.

I don’t even know how I feel about everything right now. Basically I’m trying to stay busy so I don’t have to think.

That is all for now. Hopefully once I get back into my daily routine and go for a few long runs (I have been too busy to do so for the past week), things will all start falling into place.

Photo: My doggy Scope hiding under the covers, pre-move.

  • http://www.solitarydiner.blogspot.com Solitary Diner

    So sorry to hear this.  Even if it’s for the best, ending a relationship is always a painful thing.  Wishing you all the best.

    • http://doctorpsychobabble.com Dr. Psychobabble

      pain is a horrible thing. but at least i know i’m alive. thanks for your kind words.

  • http://www.solitarydiner.blogspot.com Solitary Diner

    So sorry to hear this.  Even if it’s for the best, ending a relationship is always a painful thing.  Wishing you all the best.

    • http://doctorpsychobabble.com Dr. Psychobabble

      pain is a horrible thing. but at least i know i’m alive. thanks for your kind words.

  • Bob

    We want you to be happy and safe. Wish we could be there with you to lend a helping hand and listening ear. It will take time for things to all sort out .We’re here for you.

    • http://doctorpsychobabble.com Dr. Psychobabble

      thanks, bob! i love you!

  • Bob

    We want you to be happy and safe. Wish we could be there with you to lend a helping hand and listening ear. It will take time for things to all sort out .We’re here for you.

    • http://doctorpsychobabble.com Dr. Psychobabble

      thanks, bob! i love you!

  • Anonymous

    So sorry.  My boyfriend of 3 years and I ended our relationship just last month – I know 3 years isn’t a comparison to what you guys had, but he had moved across the country to be closer to me, so I can imagine a degree of what you’re going through.  It’s so painful, reimagining the future. I’m wishing you the best.

    • http://doctorpsychobabble.com Dr. Psychobabble

      thanks for the supportive words. it really helps. they same time heals but it never feels that way at first.

  • Action_Potential

    So sorry.  My boyfriend of 3 years and I ended our relationship just last month – I know 3 years isn’t a comparison to what you guys had, but he had moved across the country to be closer to me, so I can imagine a degree of what you’re going through.  It’s so painful, reimagining the future. I’m wishing you the best.

    • http://doctorpsychobabble.com Dr. Psychobabble

      thanks for the supportive words. it really helps. they same time heals but it never feels that way at first.

  • http://thuchuynh.com thuc

    :( im sorry.  write if you need an ear.

    • http://doctorpsychobabble.com Dr. Psychobabble

      thanks, thus, you’re the bestest.

  • http://thuchuynh.com thuc

    :( im sorry.  write if you need an ear.

    • http://doctorpsychobabble.com Dr. Psychobabble

      thanks, thus, you’re the bestest.

  • Kent Tisher

    That sucks!  Take care of yourself, and give yourself time to grieve.  Much love.

    • http://doctorpsychobabble.com Dr. Psychobabble

      thanks! am definitely trying to…

  • Kent Tisher

    That sucks!  Take care of yourself, and give yourself time to grieve.  Much love.

    • http://doctorpsychobabble.com Dr. Psychobabble

      thanks! am definitely trying to…

  • Beth Brooke

    I’m just now reading your post. I’m sorry to hear of the news. I pray that you will have a smooth transition and will have time to grieve. :(

    • http://doctorpsychobabble.com Dr. Psychobabble

      thank you for your support. really, seriously, thanks!

  • Beth Brooke

    I’m just now reading your post. I’m sorry to hear of the news. I pray that you will have a smooth transition and will have time to grieve. :(

    • http://doctorpsychobabble.com Dr. Psychobabble

      thank you for your support. really, seriously, thanks!

  • Angelinah

    I’m so sorry love.  My partner and I split up while I was studying for boards and we are also still “trying to figure out what that means”; I know it can be really rough.  Sometimes the best thing to do is to keep your feet moving so your mind can stop, and it sounds like you’re in an ideal place for that.  Bless your heart (in a non-secular pagan sort of way), take good care of you.  I hope you can find some joy in your days.

    • http://doctorpsychobabble.com Dr. Psychobabble

      keep the feet moving is good advice. that’s why i run. my legs do the work so my brain can rest! 

  • Angelinah

    I’m so sorry love.  My partner and I split up while I was studying for boards and we are also still “trying to figure out what that means”; I know it can be really rough.  Sometimes the best thing to do is to keep your feet moving so your mind can stop, and it sounds like you’re in an ideal place for that.  Bless your heart (in a non-secular pagan sort of way), take good care of you.  I hope you can find some joy in your days.

    • http://doctorpsychobabble.com Dr. Psychobabble

      keep the feet moving is good advice. that’s why i run. my legs do the work so my brain can rest!